
The other day I realized that we have slowly worked our way through 4 boxes of princess bandaids in the past month or so. My daughter has a psycho very strong aversion to any slight scratch, as well as loud noises, eating most foods, and even washing her dear blanket.
A usual day with her contains lots of energy drains – whining, long bedtimes, trying to get some nutrition into her, her continual separation anxiety/my lack of any semblance of privacy. She is growing. She’s not perfect; nor am I. Yet now it’s much less exhausting to me and much more OK.
She has not suddenly outgrown her fears. Rather, the change has come from within myself. I have stopped wishing to escape the situation. I have simply accepted what is and realized how humorous it sometimes is. Somehow I have started laughing at these things rather than getting irritated. Sometimes I see the situation from above, or as if it were on a sitcom, and I find it hilarious. What can I tell ya? It works!
By being more accepting, I am actually much better able to be present for my daughter in what are clearly difficult or fearful moments for her. I am better able to guide her toward changing these annoying behaviors from this mindset than from the perspective of exhausted frustration.

Every time I see from the perspective of LOVE rather than of LACK, I am stretching my heart to be able to let more love inside. Love is what it’s all about. I celebrate the baby steps, the small progress, and the courage to keep trying. And I try to remember that the more I nurture myself, the more love I have to give to those around me.
My daughter will continue to freak out at loud noises or the tiniest of scratches… at least for a while. Yet I love her tiny self so much and I want to fully experience her childhood. I want to love her exactly as she is today. Sometimes she is so dramatic that I can practically see the Hollywood marquee with her name on it in lights. These are the times I know I’m tipping the scale toward more love… for her and for me.
Have a lovely Labor Day weekend, friends. Monday’s post will run on Sunday this week… the calendar pages are flyin’ and it’s already time for another OLW update. 🙂
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