January reading report

I had hoped to bring you the next Soulful Home prompt today, but there’s one thing I still want to do before I show you my new and improved entryway.  So start thinking about how you can make your own foyer more welcoming and we’ll talk on Monday.  Instead, I bring to you the books I (mostly) enjoyed in January…

January books

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Through the Narrow Gate, Revised: A Memoir of Spiritual Discovery by Karen Armstrong

I can’t remember who mentioned this book on her blog, but it sounded wonderful and I’m so glad I read this one.  It’s a memoir but it really could be a bestselling fiction novel, it’s written so well and is so fascinating.  I loved learning Karen’s reasons for entering the convent and about what happened for her there.  The adjustments she tried to make are simply astounding to me.  She writes with respect for the religious world, even though she faced vast internal conflicts with living a life of such denial and discipline.  Though she decided to leave the convent after 7 years, she admits that she’ll probably always be a nun in her heart.  I am currently reading her sequel to this book, The Spiral Staircase: My Climb Out of Darkness.


My Education by Susan Choi

I really don’t know how I made it through this one.  It’s about an obsessed first-year grad student, in love with a professor’s wife.  The main character’s immaturity drove me nuts.  It’s a coming-of-age story with lots of strange outcomes.  The book is written well, but I could not identify with any of the characters.


A Guide for the Perplexed: A Novel by Dara Horn

I will probably read anything Dara Horn writes because of they way she incorporates Jewish texts and history with modern ethics.  This latest novel overlaps centuries of history and brings ancient stories to life.  By layering her modern-day story about a software executive (and her revolutionary program that records and organizes a person’s entire life) and her family with stories of Solomon Schechter and of Maimonides, Horn shows us how physical events are tied to our memories and our perceptions.  It’s a page-turner for sure once the heroine gets kidnapped during a trip to Egypt.  A large portion of the book is about her husband, her sister and her young daughter at home and how they react to her capture.  I highly recommend this one! (And how cool is this? I sent this review to Amazon and they posted it!)


The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry: A Novel by Rachel Joyce

I think this one was recommended by Oprah in her magazine, and it did not disappoint.  It’s a sweet and poignant story of a retired man in England who receives a letter letting him know a former friend is in hospice.  He starts out to walk to the mailbox with a brief note to her, then keeps on walking, all 500 miles to deliver it in person, as if he could cure her by the walk alone.

“Harold thought of all the things in life he’d let go.  The small smiles.  The offers of a beer.  The people he had passed over and over again, in the brewery car park, or on the street, without lifting his head.  The neighbors whose forwarding addresses he had never kept.  Worse: the son who didn’t speak to him and the wife he had betrayed..  He remembered his father in the nursing home, and his mother’s suitcase by the door.  And now here was a woman who twenty years ago had proved herself a friend. Was this how it went? That just at the moment when he wanted to do something, it was too late That all the pieces of a life must eventually be surrendered, as if in truth they amounted to nothing? The knowledge of his helplessness pressed down on him so heavily he felt weak.  It wasn’t enough to send a letter.  There must be a way to make a difference.”

Along the way, we meet new characters, learn about Harold’s past and family, and follow along as he remembers his life.  I got the sense that wasn’t paying attention to it until now.  “He no longer saw distance in terms of miles.  He measured it with his remembering.”

“He had learned that it was the smallness of people that filled him with wonder and tenderness, and the loneliness of that too.  The world was made up of people putting one foot in front of the other; and a life might appear ordinary simply because the person living it had been doing so for a long time.  Harold could no longer pass a stranger without acknowledging the truth that everyone was the same, and also unique; and that this was the dilemma of being human.  He walked so surely it was as if all his life he had been waiting to get up from his chair.”

I am blown away that this is Joyce’s first novel.  It was absolutely amazing.  It’s full of lessons about forgiveness, compassion, and faith.  Highly recommend!

Moon TimeMoon Time: A guide to celebrating your menstrual cycle by Lucy H. Pearce.

Since participating in a blog hop for Lucy’s latest book, The Rainbow Way, I’ve connected with her in a Facebook group and on her website, The Happy Womb.  This book “connects the biological and spiritual aspects of the menstrual cycle.” Just the descriptions of how our monthly cycle influences our moods, sensitivity, and creativity was fascinating to me.  Lucy writes with humor and meaning of the sacred power within our body’s cycles.


Stargirl by Jerry Spinelli

About a high school girl who is wonderfully different and how she touches the heart of a young boy who loves her.  Stargirl makes her own clothes, plays the ukulele, and takes an interest in the important dates and events in everyone’s life.  I remember how high school can be its own insular world, and Spinelli writes so well about what it feels like to be somewhere where sameness is key.  I never felt that I belonged, though I didn’t have the courage to confidently sing my own song either.  I wish I had.


Conversations With God : An Uncommon Dialogue (Book 2) by Neale Donald Walsch

This “exchange” is about our world’s 160 planets and the social and political problems we face and filled with potential solutions.  God is portrayed as unconditionally loving, just as a mother loves her own child no matter what he does, and similarly always guiding and protecting.   The “dialogue” between God and Walsch is fascinating and I found it compelling and greatly reassuring.  Since we are each a part of God, we are interconnected, and almost all our problems stem from seeing ourselves as separate from one another.  

I’ve always been deeply interested in bettering our planet through social change, but my goodness, the ideas presented here are amazing! A clear path toward a global shift for the benefit of meeting every single person’s basic socioeconomic needs, ending all violence, an end to poverty and mass exploitation of people and resources by the powerful, an end to environmental destruction, an equal opportunity to all people to rise to the highest expression of the self.  I plan to read Book 1 (about individual development) and Book 3 (about universal truth, who we are, and the evolution of the species), as well as other of Walsch’s books.  As I go about my everyday life, I come back to tenets from this book and I must say, I feel better! I feel there’s a path, a direction, a way to connect with my fellow people with compassion and hope.

Here are two of my favorite excerpts (I have more than several):

“[The world’s] economic, political, social, and religious systems are primitive.  I observe that you have the collective arrogance to think they are the best.  I see the largest number of you resisting any change or improvement which takes anything away from you – never mind who it might help.  What is needed on your planet is a massive shift in consciousness.  A change in your awareness.  A renewed respect for all of life, and a deepened understanding of the inter-relatedness of everything.”

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“Is your soul as lonely as your mind? Is it even more neglected? And when was the last time you felt your soul being expressed? When was the last time you cried with joy? Wrote poetry? Made music? Danced in the rain? Baked a pie? Painted anything? Fixed something that was broken? Kissed a baby? Held a cat to your face? Hiked up a hill? Swam naked? Walked at sunrise? Played the harmonica? Talked ’til dawn? Made love for hours… on a beach, in the woods? Communed with nature? Searched for God?

“When was the last time you sat alone with the silence, traveling to the deepest part of your being? When was the last time you said hell0 to your soul?

“When you live as a single-faceted creature, you become deeply mired in matters of the body: Money.  Sex.  Power.  Possessions.  Physical stimulations and satisfactions.  Security. Fame. Financial gain.

“When you live as a dual-faceted creature, you broaden your concerns to include matters of the mind: Companionship; creativity; stimulation of new thoughts, new ideas; creation of new goals, new challenges; personal growth.

“When you life as a three-part being, you come at last into balance with yourself.  Your concerns include matters of the soul: spiritual identity; life purpose; relationship to God; path of evolution; spiritual growth; ultimate destiny.”

I hope to read Books 1 and 3 soon, and I’ve also signed up for a webcast from Walsch.

I am also reading an entry a day in The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have by Mark Nepo.  My favorite passage from January was this one:

“When we believe in what no one else can see, we find we are each other.  And all moments of living, no matter how difficult, come back into some central point where self and world are one, where light pours in and out at once.” 

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What have you been reading lately? And are you on Goodreads? I’d love to connect there.

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Photo-heart connection: three leaves in a pond

“It is necessary … for a man to go away by himself … to sit on a rock … and ask, ‘Who am I, where have I been, and where am I going?” ~ Carl Sandburg

I always enjoy being part of Kat’s Photo-Heart Connection and visiting the other participants’ blogs.  Haven’t done it before? You can learn more about how to find your Photo-Heart Connection here.  Kat talks about “making a commitment to connect art with heart” and invites anyone and everyone to add photography or artwork to the monthly connections.

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My family spent a few days in Dallas over the winter holidays, just something fun… a change of scenery.  The above photo is from the Dallas Arboretum.  I have been wanting to spend time there for a couple years now and so my sweet Mr. B made it happen.  He dropped me off so I could wander around alone.  It was enjoyable to be alone in the quiet after being in a noisy crowded hotel for a few days and with our daughter nonstop.

The Arboretum is acres and acres (66 to be precise) of paths to explore.  I covered the entire thing in a couple hours and then went back to a few choice spots.  This pond was one of them that I particularly enjoyed.  By the time I got there though, I was exhausted.

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I settled onto a big rock and let my body sink into itself.  After starting out with a wide heart and sure steps, I’d somehow gotten into a mood where I didn’t want to encounter any other people and was bothered by their nearness and their voices.  I let the sound of the water soothe my nerves as my eyes feasted on all the leaves, lily pads, and colorful fish in the pond.  I couldn’t think of getting up and doing more walking, so I stayed there a very long time.

I started to feel lonely, as if I led a solitary life and had nobody and nothing special to return to.  I just kept staring at this group of three leaves, telling myself that the feeling is temporary and to enjoy the solitude and quiet.  Sometimes I feel way too deeply.  I realize there’s some judgement in that sentence, but honestly, I didn’t want to feel those emotions just then.

Overall, it was a pleasurable few hours, walking in the winter sunshine, enjoying the delicate leaves and flowing ponds, and stopping for a cup of warm tea.  I hope to return in the spring to enjoy some flowers.

“Are the days of winter sunshine just as sad for you, too? When it is misty, in the evenings, and I am out walking by myself, it seems to me that the rain is falling through my heart and causing it to crumble into ruins.”
― Gustave Flaubert

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Cherishing 2014

blog headerWe have been gifted 365 brand new days! Some moments are ordinary but can take our breath away in their soul-stirring beauty.  My intent with my new word is partly to notice those moments.

cherish headerCarrying a word with you as you journey through the year can be a powerful way to bring about change in your life.  It’s such fun to hear from friends what they’ve chosen to be their word of the year.  (Leave a comment telling me yours if you have one!)

cherish braceletMy main goal with the One Little Word class for the past two years was to be more mindful of the present moment, to truly live each moment as it comes.  This year, in continuation of that, I’ve chosen “cherish” to remind me not only to cherish each ordinary moment for its beauty, but to appreciate and care for myself as well.  I’m one of those intuitive souls who absorb emotions and energy from other people quite easily.  If I don’t take time to recharge myself with simple self-care practices, I burn out by 10am.

definitionOften my to-do lists are focused on everyone else.  This year, I am adding myself to the list.  A little quiet time every morning.  A gratitude journal.  Time for reading and for rest.  I may be crazy and throw in a massage or a bubble bath.  We must nurture ourselves if we are going to nurture our children and spouses and everything else.  I’ve been wearing this bracelet every day to remind myself… and it is working.

Intro pagesMy word this year is “cherish.”  I want to treat myself with tenderness and nurture the ME inside.  I also want to find calm and stillness within so I will more often look around at my wonderful home and husband and daughter and cherish THEM and feel abundant wealth at the beauty and Universe surrounding me.  I want to slow down, find my soul and really listen.  I want to celebrate this life.

cherish pagesblog_worksheet2 blog_worksheet 1I see this word as an invitation toward openness and appreciation.  I am really looking forward to seeing how this word changes me.  It already has encouraged me to slow down and really notice the blessings around me.

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Unlimited possibility: my vision boards

Both vision boardsIn my Project Light Year class, we are discussing the power of intention.  Once you align your energy and put the wheels in motion, releasing what it is you desire into the Universe, magic starts to happen.  Doors open.  We start to watch opportunities arise and events unfold in our life that we never could have expected.

It’s obviously hard to limit myself when looking through magazines for images and words that resonate with me! I made a large board but had to tape another section to it because all my cutouts didn’t fit.  THEN, I got issues of Uppercase magazine, Artful Blogging, and Where Women Create in the mail and just had to make another one! I have a whole box of collage scraps to pull from too.  (And I just got some back issues of Flow Magazine from the Netherlands… a MUST for paper scrap lovers! I am swooning over here.)

Home, intimacy, comfort, mindfulness, spontaneity, creativity, balance, joy, authenticity, rest, spirituality … all things I want to bring more of into my life.

I found 4 main themes in my boards.  1) My artistic journey.  I want to let go of the negative talk in my head.  I envision feeling free to express myself. 2) Authenticity.  Do what feels good and right; embrace my authentic self.  Being open and honest with friends and family.  I envision feeling accepted and connected more often.  3) Intimacy.  Being open to play, closeness.  I envision feeling connected, grounded, needed.  4) Spirituality and inspiration.  Being nature more. Continuing curiosity and wonder.  I envision feeling more love and peace.

Unlimited PossibilitiesHomeIntimacyArt and intimacyCreativityjourneyFocusConnection; joyShineHappy mom loveWonderBalancehomerest

 

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The Untethered Soul: the awareness inside you

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One of the books I read and enjoyed in December (listed in my post here) caused such a mental shift for me that I want to share some of it with you all.  The book is The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael Singer.  It’s divided into three main subjects: how our thoughts and emotions influence our internal energy, how to try to let go of fear, pain, or expectation, and how that release will serve us.  This post is my attempt to summarize the book for you.

We are all energy

Your every movement and even every single thought takes energy.   External energy comes from food or sleep, but what about internal energy? The effort it takes to have and hold onto a thought, to remember something, to generate an emotion, to try to control your emotions, to ruminate over all of them repeatedly takes so much internal energy.  We have an unlimited source of this energy available to us if we choose to tap into it.  Where does that energy come from?

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Let’s ask a different way.  Sometimes (most of the time) we use our energy to protect ourselves.  If we think of a good day as one in which we got through without anything too terrible happening, we are seeing life as a threat.  Thinking this way closes us off to growth, enthusiasm, and any kind of spontaneity.

Singer says that spiritual growth is about changing this energy pattern.  What if, instead, we could learn to stay open no matter what happens? What if we could teach ourselves to relax and experience each moment as it happens? “No matter what” means even if someone yells at you, or somebody cuts you off in traffic, or drastic life events occur.  Happy, literally, no matter what.

dropletStop getting involved

If each experience, each moment, simply passes before you and is gone, and you let it go, you are in new moment after new moment, ad infinitum.  Life becomes an infinite series of nows.  You can travel through your life with nothing “on your mind.” You are free from holding onto your insecurities or your fears.  You don’t want to hold onto those things anymore, so you voluntarily and consciously stop protecting them and you let them go, over and over again.

Just who exactly are you?

This is my favorite part of the book.  Let’s say you think something like, “This water feels hot.” You are not that thought.  You are not your skin that feels the water.  You are not your brain signal.  You are the one inside who notices that you are thinking that thought and feeling that sensation.  You are aware of all these things, but you are free of them.  You are simply the one who notices.  (I love that!!!) You notice your thoughts.  You notice your emotions.  And then you let them pass through you.  You are not them.

Sardinia ItalyA fish doesn’t see the water

If we don’t identify the true source of a problem, we will constantly try to control it or cover it up with external changes.  And what is the problem? Singer says it is that we don’t feel whole unto ourselves.  We think we need another person or we need other people to do something specific in relation to us.   “This state of affairs is so prevalent that you don’t see it, just as a fish doesn’t see the water.”

We think we need our children to call us once a week.  We think our grandchildren should behave a certain way.  We think the grocery store clerk should compliment our deli choice.  Whatever it is we are expecting, we must let go of that expectation to be free.

The reason philosophers say we human beings suffer is because we are attempting to control our environments so much, getting involved in our sensitivities, worrying about the past or the future.  Singer says, “You cannot spend your life avoiding things that are not actually happening.”  So much could happen we haven’t even imagined yet.  If we aren’t comfortable with absolutely anything happening, we will spend our life attempting to avoid unpleasantness, which is really only energy passing through us.  Just keep relaxing, giving it room, and letting it go.

Photo Heart glacierPerspective

My second favorite part of the book:

“Walk outside on a clear night and just look up into the sky.  You are sitting on a planet spinning around in the middle of absolutely nowhere.  Though you can only see a few thousand stars, there are hundreds of billions of stars in our Milky Way Galaxy alone.  It’s estimated that there are over a trillion stars in the Spiral Galaxy.  And that galaxy would look like one star to us, if we could even see it.  You’re just standing on one little ball of dirt and spinning around one of the stars.  From that perspective, do you really care what people think about your clothes or your car?”

Another favorite part (can you see I have almost this entire book underlined?):

“We are constantly trying to hold it all together.  If you really want to see why you do things, then don’t do them and see what happens… There’s a reason for everything we do.  If you want to see why you care so much about what you wear and what your hair is like, then just don’t do it one day.  Wake up in the morning and go somewhere disheveled with your hair a mess, and see what happens to the energies inside of you.  See what happens to you when you don’t do the things that make you comfortable.  What you’ll see is why you’re doing them… You are constantly trying to stay within your comfort zone.”

post bridge sproutsBe happy no matter what

“Billions of things could happen that you haven’t even thought of yet.  The question is not whether they will happen.  Things are going to happen.  The real question is whether you want to be happy regardless of what happens.  The purpose of your life is to enjoy and learn from your experiences.  You were not put on Earth to suffer.  You’re not helping anybody by being miserable.  During the time in between birth and death, you get to choose whether or not you want to enjoy the experience.

“There is no reason to get stressed out, for blowing up or for shutting down.  If you do not let this energy build up inside you, but instead allow each moment of each day to pass through you, then you can be as fresh every moment as you would be on a stress-free vacation.  It is not life’s events that are causing stress.  It is your resistance to life’s events that is causing this experience.  Since the problem is caused by using your will to resist the reality of life passing through you, the solution is quite obvious — stop resisting.  You are wasting precious energy.”

This is a huge “aha” for me.  “Stop resisting” helps me simply accept whatever situation I am in. So my daughter is whining.  So I got a flat tire.  So it doesn’t look like I’m going to have time to work on that art project today.  OK, moving on.  I can’t undo that, but I can choose how I react to it.  Do I want to live this moment peeved or feeling light? It is we who are putting limits on ourselves.

macro flowerOpening to freedom

Singer writes that there is a part of our being that is a direct connection to the divine and that we can consciously choose to identify with that part.  As you associate less with the physical and psychological parts of your being, you begin to identify more with the flow of pure energy.  You used to walk around feeling anxiety and tension; now you walk around feeling love.

“Imagine what would happen if you started feeling tremendous love for all creatures, for every plant, for every animal, and for all the beauties of nature.  Imagine if every child seemed like your own, and every person you saw looked like a beautiful flower, with its own color, its own expression, shape and sounds…  Where there used to be judging, there is now respecting, loving, and cherishing.  To see, to experience, and to honor is to participate in life instead of standing back and judging.”

This perspective means even more to me now after just finishing reading Neale Donald Walsch’s Conversations with God, vol. 2, which I’ll tell you about in a January books post soon.  In this book, I learned that it is our mental construct that we are separate from each other and even separate from God that causes many of our problems.  Instead, if we come to understand that we are all made up of the divine and we are each made from pure love, much of the conflict we have created will dissolve.  This book also says that God’s love for us is similar to a mother’s love for her child… unconditional and always there.

clouds w quoteAnyway, this post is getting far too long and I don’t want to get into the last segment of the book here and start a spiritual argument.  I do hope some of you will read the book and I hope this post has helped you in some way.  I have added it to my list of Favorite Reading… it was that good.

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Photo Friday: winter leaves

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“If winter comes, can spring be far behind?” ~ Percy Bysshe Shelley

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These leaves (again from the Dallas Arboretum) seemed so fresh to me, like they accept the fact that it’s winter but yet they will continue to shine their beauty into the world around them.  That’s just what they do!  winter leaf7winter leaf6winter leaf2winter leaf11winter leaf10

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