Mr. B and I were deliberating over a big purchase decision. It doesn’t matter what it was… what it did for our partnership is what I’d like to tell you about.
In our deliberations, at any given moment, one of us would be all for it and the other would be doubtful and cautious. Sometimes just an hour later, we would switch. The skeptic would be convinced and ready to truly enjoy and live large; the “let’s do it” person would now be worried about long-term effects and making a rash choice.
This went on for a couple weeks, at least.
We did our research. We talked several times with our financial advisor. We had many late night conversations.
Finally, we both landed on the side of being wisely cautious. Just because you CAN do something does not mean you SHOULD, right? We both feel relieved that the emotional roller coaster ride is over. We made the right decision for now.
What I most appreciate is that we were the perfect yin/yang partnership throughout these discussions. We listened to each other. We supported each other. We trusted each other. We were always on the same page. We each wanted the other to have what he/she most wanted.
Because of this, we are much closer than before. We look at each other with admiration and appreciation. I think that’s pretty great!
How we have discussions can be far more important than what we say. Do you find that to be true?
Holy wow, did I need to read this just this moment.
Like a little care package from heaven:)
Thank you for expressing so beautifully this wisdom, Naomi.
Sitting with it, grateful.
-Jennifer
How we communicate is AS important as watching what we say. Maya Angelou said, “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Yes. That is great, Naomi. It sounds like you not only have a great relationship, but that you are both careful and respectful when making big decisions, which is really important. You are so wise!
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Yes Naomi, I believe that’s true. As the years move forward many more difficult discussions will come up so the process continues. Nice that you recognize the ying and yang of conversations.